It is difficult to truly understand the complexities of Narcissistic Abuse unless you have experienced it first hand or are close to someone who has. The journey out of this nightmarish experience can feel completely overwhelming. I get it.
As a Licensed Mental Health professional, who spent much of my career working in the field of Gender-Based Violence, I thought I understood clearly, the dynamics of dysfunctional relationships. Until, I fell in love (or what I thought was love) with a narcissist. What we often do not realize while we are going through it, is that there IS light at the end of the tunnel and that this tunnel is leading us to a much deeper relationship with ourselves.
As my awareness about Narcissistic Abuse grew, I came to realize that there are often patterns in our relationship history that we may not be fully aware of, and are not our fault. Narcissists are very good at exploiting our vulnerabilities, even ones we did not know were there. Before we realize it, we are in deep and feel a million miles away from our own intuition.
The good news is that these painful relationships are often catalysts for strengthening the most important relationship of our lives - the one with OURSELF. As a result, the healthy relationships that you choose moving forward become even stronger and more rewarding. The authentic, healthy love that you have searched for - does exist. But it starts with YOU being back in a strong and healthy place.
Narcissists are not capable of this type of interpersonal growth. It may be scary and painful but -in the end, you always win, because you ARE not only capable of this growth and insight, are designed for it.
Sorting through the pieces and patterns with a professional can help provide clarity about how to grieve and release the pain from the past, use your empathic skills in a safe way and step into a higher level of living.
Making the decision to seek professional support from a trained professional was the catalyst that really helped me break free. Years later, I can reflect on my own experience with clarity and wisdom. I have dedicated a large part of my practice to helping others navigate this tough terrain and re-build a healthy relationship with the wounded parts of their hearts that are destined to grow and thrive. Believe me, it does get better!
If you or someone you know is suffering through Narcissistic Abuse, please take the first step and reach out for support. You are not alone.